I read an article that says if you look at ppl coming towards you in the eye they will move, it seemed to work. Most people feel like an outcast on some level. I feel Alot better now.. Im gonna try and fight this inner voice , i know its gonna be hard. Noone tries to talk to me, seems its always me that has to make the attempt to talk to people. Don’t let her make you feel this way. As for local forums that involve one-on-one conversations, I met my significant other in my quest for friendship, along with so many other people who share my interests and value spending time with me. Sometimes no one likes someone. I enjoy my work and hobbies and I like to study and learn. I am very tiered and lonely, don’t know how I need to change myself. Because love requires for there to be a connection at core level, a certain amount of openness and similarity is required. I have a roof over my head until the unemployment benefits run out . I do love myself a lot. His mother doesn’t acknowledge what he is & had done a her damage to make him stay grounded to be near her. My father his favorite name for me clumsy child. This is my whole life. My own father reported me out of anger & he’s done & said alot worse, but nobody has reported them. Leave your mom out for a while and see how she likes it. GYmming etc etc… It will make u feel better…I did that myself…And always keep one thing in mind that LIFE IS NOT GOING TO REMAIN AS IT IS NOW, it will most certainly change…May god bless u…and i think like ur name, ur smile also wud be so cute.take care and help another soul. Someone who is generally honest will not do well with someone who lies constantly and someone who is open will not live happily with someone who is closed. What caught my attention most about your comment is when you talk about losing your personality because I have been there. I am the only one who pays any attention to me. I am currently Ill with heart disease and have had 2 recent TIA’s. You’re all amazing. Makeup is my mask. I do tend to get taken advantage of because I like helping people out. Sarah, I see where you are coming from. But nobody likes me. As you do this, adopt what Dr. Daniel Siegel calls a C-O-A-L (curious, open, accepting and loving) attitude toward yourself. Again, I would like to thank you for your thoughts and hope one day I will figure out what is wrong with me. When people write down or say their voices out loud, they sometimes have insight into where these mean thoughts originated. They seem to b crazy about me and then all of a sudden.. they walk without looking back!! That has been my experience too, my whole life. Hello I always feel lonely when my gf goes out and enjoy her self or she is either on her phone and I’m sat there bored and she’s never off it. Maybe we have weird pheromones or something? In China, men outnumber men to women 115 to 100. Sometimes I just don’t get the world, and why it’s like this for me. I have lived by myself twice and which people and in all my cases this feeling of loneliness never died. We have one life! I am kidding myself thinking our marriage can be salvaged? Probably to late but I refuse to die so send some luck to all of us in this boat we’ll maybe find each other!!! Nobody loves Me Maria Schrader and Pierre Sanoussi-Bliss in "Nobody Loves Me" by Doris Dörrie. Now I’m 68 and stopped dating or trying since the last man who I spent 2 years with left with my money. No one talks to me outside of work or away from social media. Gilly befriends her and she feels happy again. Nobody loves me. I had an awful unhappy childhood where both my parents didnt want me or loved me and one just didnt want to know me, but the other brought me up resentfully with a lot of cruelty. I doubted myself and really believed that I was less valuable than those around me. This got really bad to the point where I was even violently attacked. I knew I wasn’t alone and self esteem and self worth fluctuates a lot, especially since the world we live in is so uncertain. Look up the “self-fulfilling prophecy” its quite interesting. Vocalize or write down a reply to your critical inner voice. I’m a lone because of me and how I feel about myself, but I can’t get away from it. Realistically I no longer force myself on them as I can tell they do not like me. Critical Inner Voice, Isolation and Loneliness, Self Development, Self-Destructive Behavior By PsychAlive There is perhaps no more painful thought in the world than that of “nobody likes me.” It’s an easy feeling to indulge and dwell on, a terrible go-to self-attack in low moments when we feel isolated, depressed, anxious or insecure. Why am I not pretty? This nobody likes me thing and the sharing gives some insight. Just to be a fly on a wall to see how other people become accepted would be worth all I have. Sometimes, it operates like a subtle, shaded filter through which we perceive the world. I’ve learned not to hold expectations. Why is nobody else interested in C.S. Men only want beautiful, perfect, pretty, stunning women – women like me, who can only look ok with makeup, don’t stand a chance in hell. It’s the same for me. So Eros love, the sexual love between a man and a woman is put on a higher pedestal than other loves. I always have negative thoughts and visions and always imagine the worse. What if your HUSBAND thinks you’re boring? Many people even start to imagine the voice as coming from a figure in their lives, a parent who always worried they’d never make friends, for example. While those with an inner core of peace will draw each other, those with an inner core of anger will repel each other. I finished my BS in biology and got into pharmacy school and got my doctorate degree there. It has been a journey and I am thankful for it because it cultivated some great character traits. A subdued cheerful greeting and a few words and I keep moving. I recently changed from giving money to my grandchildren for their birthday to taking them to something of their choice, movie etc., mainly to spend some time with them. My exes were nice to me in the beginning until they realized I’m someone they just don’t want to be around. I’d not worry too much about my own family especially if do not find anything in you for their disdain or indifference. I have no friends it was my self destructive behavior that drove them all away and I’m either too proud or too scared to ask for forgiveness but I can’t bring myself to make new friends and every day is just getting worse and worse. In turn, it bends us out of shape in such a way that creates a self-fulfilling prophecy. Is what I said unforgivable? Remember when the article talks about the “self-fulfilling prophecy”? I knew that the next attack would be from my own family. I bought kinect for me and my gf for her weight issue etc and she still whinges about weight but if it’s my problem I’m apparently putting it on to her. I’ve tried anxiety meds and even mood meds (cua the doc said perhaps i was cyclothymic).. but idk nothing has worked and man alive, it gets hard to keep positive about it when I’ve tried soo hard so many times to snap out of this, always with success first, but then with ultimate failure and rejection. Who told you that myth? I suffer from loneliness as well but feel that I am getting better over the years. I deeply appreciate your thoughts and it made a lots of sense to me. And yet, this exact thought is extremely common to shy people and extroverts alike. But they’re so different from me, they don’t like the things I like, they are not interested in the thing I’m interested to.. so I lie to hang out with someone, to be liked by them, to be “social” and “friendly” but that doesn’t help with the fact that nobody understands me when I talk about what I really care, the only thing I can do is talk about what they like, which doesn’t solve the problem: I’m not shy and I’m not introverted but I am lonely and it doesn’t depend on me. Going to church and trying to please God is the only person I try to please. A woman saved my life and I repaid her by putting her in jail the next week. Especially the bit about people more/less rude, smart, boring, shy, selfish etc all seeming to have no difficulty in attracting friends. This isn’t everything that has ever been said or done to me. Respectful but distant unless someone *really* clicks. They manipulate me by making me promise not to tell but it’s ok for them to break theirs or tell me if I do, it would be my fault for telling. You can achieve whatever you’re after. I am very excited about this website. Ok, so we have a consensus here that nobody likes any of us and there seems little any of us can do to change that. No one likes me.” Then next to these voices, write down the thoughts as “you” statements. This has coloured my whole life and my opinion of myself has never been good, Im now middle aged and am socially very much alone with no friends, I dont go to social situations as they make me feel terrible and I have depression, anxiety and suffer from panic attacks regularly. Human beings are drawn to beauty – beauty of Mother Nature, beauty of character, beauty of the human form, beauty of animals, beauty of art, and many other forms of beauty. Nobody misses me, Nobody cries, Nobody thinks I'm a wonderful guy. Nobody is born with social skills, we all learn them from somewhere. It’s so empty when we don’t matter to anyone, and I often wonder why my life since a kid has been a lonely one . It may bring us up too! Once I started using hobby clubs (art and gaming for me) and local online forums, even sites like okcupid or match (you can set them to friendship searches), I found a lot more people in my area who appreciate me for who I am. I get suicidal sometimes from loneliness though I work and volunteer. How everyone snubbed the unfortunate person because it was uncool to befriend them? I just find I don’t really care about that anymore. My Parents are dead , my brothers are dead , my partner is dead . I have been devolved for 6 years and no one asked me out. As a kid I was a straight A student but my family always talked about how bright and smart is my older brother is and they always said that I’m a very hard worker. Its difficult for me to advice something without knowing what is happening in your life right now. I wish I wasn’t like this, but I suppose how life in general, has impacted on me, I come across as this kind of person. Still, no luck. Im just a big fat ugly person, my friend told me to ask someone out, but I got rejected, because Im ugly. I’ve been there but it didn’t stop with just one person. The worst feeling for me is when people close to me or those I work with give up on me. It is possible to put the Operation: Fear Strike logo onto t-shirts at multiple stores. They found me funny and witty and interesting, and we all did things together. We cannot touch it or examine it or hold it. Oh I didn’t see you there you scared me! He can tell there’s something wrong with you.” When a friend doesn’t text us back right away, it says, “I wonder what she’s thinking. I believe in you guys and know you can do anything. Sorry …, Lucie, thank you for saying all of that. I withdrew. If people reject you, maybe its a sign of their own insecurities, or maybe they’re farting and scared you will find their stench out. I feel traumatised by people at this point and would rather be alone . I will try to do the same as well from now on. My “demon” voice is always telling me “you’re not good enough”. Why Does Nobody Love Me? I completely agree with you this article is great! If someone is experiencing feelings of depression, anxiety, loneliness or social isolation, it can be extremely beneficial to seek therapy. I hope you are doing ok and don’t feel so sad, thank you so much for letting me know i am not alone how ever wrote that big thing up there.It is so much like how i feel but alittle wore. Most people already have their friends, I was in the same boat and decided to try hobby clubs and local online forums as well as finding friends on dating sites (the ones that have a platonic friendship option). Elizabeth, that is called verbal abuse. Feeling alone and isolated these days. I’m only now just starting to realize it after 15 years of failure. Some of my white friends excluded me because they knew my parents were black. My heart is broken. Over thinking i feel is a disorder.I found out that when you start thinking, you just need to take long breaths and concentrate on breathing.Your brain cannot think and concentrate on breathing at a same time. I call them. There were people in my life I have helped, I have been listening to their problems, I was trying to be supportive, I have feed them with jokes and funny stories and interesting facts and they were laughing and they were interested in what I say, and they looked like they have a good time around me but still, they just won’t ever text me, never invite me anywhere, never initiate anything, like they forgot about my existence at the moment a came out of their sight. I feel the exact same way. I have friends okay but I feel so left out, trust issues makes me push them away. The reason for this is that a) one doesn’t know how to be loved, b) one doesn’t know how to love, and c) one doesn’t recognize the beginnings of love. All love comprises the glue that connects one person to another. Because of this i feel soo lonely, unwanted and useless. its draining and im sick of it. analizing every comment or gesture that people made and turning it into a negative. For years I have made myself available for errands and household repairs only to discover that my suspicions were correct..I WAS being snubbed. I’m sad and cry all the time which doesn’t help heal. Oh I do relate to you , we try but would like to be heard too . Even if you can’t remember any special moment… the fact that you opened up and shared your feelings here with others who are hurting, has been a help so we know we’re not alone. I did sports and piano too. My ex was one of the most understanding people, but she left me over my problems. You’re infringing on social rules that most people pick up as children/teens. So, I choose to avoid them so as to not upset them. What are the rules? I have spent a lifetime trying to work this out and I’ve come to the conclusion that whatever it is that’s wrong, it is not what we are doing or saying but something that is beyond our control. I imagine that you have been hurt deeply as I have. After this epiphany I’m finally starting to feel okay for the first time ever. Maybe, “I’m lonely” is just something some people say. But my good qualities out weigh any bad ones.. But I will stick up for or defend myself. My parents basically set me up to become a battered wife. Why is this happening? You may have helped brighten someone’s day just by smiling at them, or by doing the ‘right thing’. I’m scared that our marriage is beyond repair. Never really thought of it as a demon but that’s a Good analogy . since our wedding my husband family and mine have not got on well an incident happened on wedding with was unintentional has caused soo much stress my in laws have no relationship with me or my husband and our arguments always boils down to this. I hope it helps. reading all these posts firstly makes me very sad because i feel each of your pain as i feel that way too. It’s huge! I feel like I’ve missed out on life a bit and still rather sad about it. My brother, at a very catastrophic time in my life, said to me that “He never knew anyone who knew me who liked me.” And then a family member was kind enough to tell me that everybody in the extended family hated me. Because of all this, I truly despise people. It has been this way my whole life. I love to laugh with others (not at others). we don’t have a physical relationship. My parents were abusive when I was a child. Then feel really stupid for acting obnoxious against my nature. But it is never ever returned because people aren’t as ‘in tune’ as I am as an empath. It is, however, an excellent example of agape love. That’s not a feeling, that’s an empirical fact. I sometimes cry uncontrollably when I feel hurt, but I do not understand the source of my pain.I really do not try and pursue relationships because I know they will end horribly. Some of us walk the path of life completely and utterly alone – and not by choice – it’s agony every day. As a child I was severely bullied throughout all of my school years, even by some teachers who seemed to take pleasure in humiliating me and was often mentally and emotionally abused by my mother who hated men, and a father that had very little to do with his son. How else would we know the way we feel, and be here trying to fix our, “ills” in a society of “ills”. I could very much relate with what you said about the people that supposedly love you. So, while we may feel alone in thinking “nobody likes me,” we actually have that in common with a staggering number of people in the world. One day, when I was experiencing personal issues of my own, I asked this friend: Do you like to be abused? Radzi seems to know how I feel and doesn’t dispute it. I wanted to become a physician to prove to the world and my family that I worth something but my family said it would be very difficult for me since I don’t speak the language. I made a friend who’s name was YASH he was invisible. Studies also show repeatedly that single people with pets are happier. Why I don’t have any friends? The researches of loneliness found that us lonely people, tend to act in way that “put off” others because of our own negative thoughts and biases. My first school was for the disabled, was miles away from where I lived so I boarded there and I didn’t feel I belonged there because my disabilities were less than others around me; The second school was a conventional one, where I was continually wondering, ‘Do I own up to other people or will I just get mocked and worse?’ – I had seen the impact that verbal abuse had had on other kids at my previous school – ‘Are people saying things about me behind my back?’ If I ask, will that mean I have to own up to what they don’t actually know about (the one I am ashamed of) and then have to live with the consequences of telling them? Once you’ve identified them, it’s essential to challenge the behaviors dictated by your inner critic in order to go after what you want in life. I hate being friendless. Only when they are in need. “Keep quiet,” the voice barks. I’m so sorry for you. I l;earned to live with it to the point I don’t care anymore who likes me and who don’t. I guess my long term nighbours would know better as they listened to a lot of what I had to go through. Some people are easier to love than others. In the UK, there are 105 men for every 100 women. I feel soo unwanted unloved and useless my husband has an OCD problem he fights with me everyday over household chores, he makes me feel like i can do nothing right. I’d much rather have someone say they like me at first blush than to say they don’t. I know what most think about me, and it’s hard to disagree. However, I notice you mentioned things like, “when your friend doesn’t text you back right away”. It has helped me be able to look at the voice as something separate from me instead of it being me which is a great start. I have no clue who are you or where do you come from or what qualities you have… Im only noticed when someone tries to use me which is sad depressing. 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